Inner Healing Work: What Is It + Why People Fear It

Inner Healing Work: What Is It + Why People Fear It

Inner Healing Work: What Is It + Why People Fear It

 

If you spend time with me, you’ll most likely hear me talk about doing your “inner healing work”. But many people don’t really understand what it means to do inner work.  Sure, they know about therapists and may even hear how beneficial counseling is. However, not that many people actually go to therapy for one reason or another.

Inner healing work is essential if you’re journeying on the spiritual path; if you’re wanting to grow spiritually, evolve, expand – whatever you want to call it.

Inner healing work is essential to show up on the planet emotionally healed and whole, which can make a big difference in your life, as well as others.

If you’re wanting to live a life that’s defined by a feeling of purpose and meaning, I think it’s necessary to journey inside and “do the work”. What kind of work? 

The kind that discovers pain you’ve tucked away in your subconscious mind, the pain that lurks in your shadows – and transforming that pain into purpose.

I mean, how awesome would that be if you could heal what needs healed and step into your authentic, powerful, happy, and loving self? Where you’re not walking around with a ten-foot brick wall around your heart for fear of being hurt, but rather, showing up with an open (and healed) heart that gladly gives and receives unconditional, radical love?

Let’s face it. The world could use more of that, right?

Now, though that sounds wonderful, the thing is, inner healing work isn’t all that easy or glamorous. Closing your eyes and going inside to face what’s lurking deep down scares the bejeebies out of many people.  Inner exploration takes time, energy, courage, and a commitment to being like a sleuth looking for old wounds that may include trauma, neglect, abuse, and more.

Why look for those wounds? Why seek those parts of yourself that you split from because at the time, you didn’t know how to deal with the pain or stuffed it?

Because when you can locate the original print from your wounds, you expose it. You shine the light of consciousness on it, and just like when you walk into a pitch-black room and turn the light switch on, the light expels the darkness!

Consciousness dispels your inner darkness, demons, shadows, or whatever you want to call it!

Listen friends, if you seriously want to live a life from your spiritual nature rather than your selfish, carnal nature that gets you into some serious negative emotions, then make a commitment to some inner exploration.

Do the inner healing work.

Now, before I go on, here are a few basics:

 

What Is Inner Healing Work?

 

inner healing work

Inner healing work is essentially diving deep into your psychological self – your psyche – for the purpose of exploring what’s there.  For the purpose of healing what pain might be stored there. For the purpose of understanding and experiencing transformation at a deeper level.

It’s a practice. An act. In other words, it’s a verb. You actually have to take the time to “do” it.

But you see, when we do our inner work, we’re saying “yes” to living an authentic life where we aren’t going to have to wear masks all the time. We won’t have to go around pretending to be happy, (especially on social media), and then going home sulking in loneliness, boredom, and despair.

When we do our inner work, we shine the light of Divine Intelligence or Spirit on the subconscious or unconscious layers of the psyche. And this, my friends is pivotal for experiencing positive change.

So, when you turn inward; when you slow your thoughts and focus beyond them, you’ll discover all sorts of thoughts, beliefs, memories, and/or wounds that have been hidden. The pain of Mom and Dad’s divorce that you didn’t know how to process when you were a child. The pain of your own divorce. The pain of losing a loved one. Your fears. Your faulty belief patterns – by identifying these, you’ll be able to work THROUGH them…transform them… and all that pent-up energy that’s been causing your mental/emotional/spiritual blocks, can be integrated so that you feel more healed…whole.

And when you can move past these wounds, you will feel less depressed, anxious, lonely, scared…you’ll feel more peace, love, joy, excitement, and passionate about life.

 

How Do I Know If I Should Do Inner Healing Work?

Not sure if you should do some inner healing work? Check out the following alarm signals:

  • You’ve lost sight of who you are
  • You’re quite lonely; you feel alone in the world
  • You feel confused and lost
  • You tend to think negatively
  • You can’t shut down your mind to sleep at night
  • You struggle with people pleasing and over-giving
  • Your self-esteem is low
  • You have chronic fatigue or health issues
  • You have anxiety
  • You and your partner fight a lot
  • You drink/drug, especially to cope
  • You feel hopeless
  • You feel empty
  • You feel very depressed
  • You are insecure, jealous
  • You keep ending up with partners who abuse you
  • You have no friends
  • You have an addiction running in your life (alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, shopping, etc.)
  • You sabotage your relationships
  • You find it challenging to handle your emotions
  • People tell you you’re neurotic
  • You isolate from others; live in your own world
  • You are controlling
  • You cry, a lot
  • You blow up at others

These are some signs that you may want to do some inner exploration.  Did you relate to some?

The good news is that there are inner healing paths that you can check out to see what might resonate with you. I do want to mention that some of the red flags above may indicate that there is a mental health disorder showing up in your life, and this may require help from a mental health professional (therapist). 

If you suspect this, please find a good therapist and do some exploring there. You can indeed do some inner work healing on your own. In fact, you should do inner healing work as a practice. At the same time, you may benefit from help from a trained mental health professional. I know many will shy away from that because it might cost them money. I say go ahead and make that investment in yourself, as the payoff will be life changing (more so than the pair of jeans you’ll pay $80 bucks for). Invest in your inner spiritual richness!

 

Why Do Some People Fear Doing Inner Work?

I’ve seen people’s eyes gloss over when I suggested to them that they should think about revisiting their past to maybe see if there are things that need to be healed. They automatically go into panic mode. They’re thinking, “Oh, wow. I can’t honestly look at my past. I’d be horrified. It’ll hurt so much.” Or, they’re simply afraid of the unknown.  In fact, some are terrified.

We are a society that really glamorizes the outer things.  Most people take pride in what they’ve learned about their careers, hobbies, traveling, etc. But when you ask them about their inner life?  When you ask them how their brain works? What their spirit is like? What enemies they struggle with inside?

They look like a deer in headlights. They just don’t know.

I love Carl Jung. He said, “People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.”

The truth is that jumping off the ledge into the deep ocean of “self” can be scary. We’d rather project the sea creatures that are swimming in our depths onto others, individually and collectively.  Just observe those who carry a victim mentality, always blaming others or their past for their current pain and suffering.  Rather than getting down and dirty with themselves doing “the inner healing work”, or taking full responsibility for their life, they’ll blame, project, lash out, sulk, complain, and so on.

But you see, diving deep into your inner ocean gives you the opportunity to start dealing with your ego/shadow/wounds.  You want to experience true freedom, peace, and joy? Then jump off that ledge. That ego you’ll start swimming in isn’t as scary as you think it is. In fact, some argue that it’s NOT EVEN REAL.  It’s the false persona that you’ve created throughout your life. 

So how can something that isn’t even real petrify you? Keep you from doing the work?

The ego might seem like it’s all powerful, but it’s really a fragile construct that thrives when it feels all powerful and in control.   But you don’t have to let it be in control.

 

The Power Of Inner Work

Doing your inner healing work isn’t going to be easy-breezy. You’re not going to be posting updates on social media about how well it’s going. In fact, inner healing work can be a process that is heart-rending, agonizing, and scary. This is why some of the mystics call it the “dark night of the soul”. It feels dark.  It feels like you’re alone and disconnected from everyone and everything – and you wonder when you’re going to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Inner healing work is what Jesus called surrendering your will for his.  Laying your life upon the altar and allowing the fires of the Spirit to burn everything in you that is not of God.  It’s willingly allowing yourself to be wrecked. To be gutted layer after layer so you essentially can die to your “self-ish” ways, and then be reborn as your authentic self. Your beautiful, already-healed spiritual self!

And, this is an ongoing process. I mean, it can become less daunting over time, but when it comes to growing spiritually, I don’t think we ever really “arrive” while we’re on this planet. We grow. We evolve. We expand. We become more love, more light, but to fully transcend? Very few do.

 

Refuse To Be Lukewarm or Mediocre

It’s easier to live life mediocre or lukewarm. It’s easier to fall in line with the herd. It’s easier to be the cog in a wheel, assuming this is all there is. Assuming that life sucks and you just deal with it. 

No. Refuse to believe this.  Walking the spiritual path might be “work”, but come on: It’s worth it.  How are you enjoying a life without meaning or purpose? Walking around in pain? Feeling as if life has dealt you a bad hand?  That’s not fun at all!

So, do the inner healing work. Figure it out. Stop pointing fingers at others, at the government, at your parents, partner, the institutes, etc. Refuse to believe that “this is all there is”. Refuse to let your existential angst swallow you up.

Rather, right now honor yourself by making a commitment to do whatever it takes to heal what needs healed INSIDE.  Commit to getting off the hamster wheel and become more of a free spirit that is led by your intuition. Your inner knowing.

How? That’s a great question, as there are various paths that can lead you there. Your task is to discover yours.

I do want to say that doing your inner healing work doesn’t have to be as treacherous as some make it out to be. It isn’t considered fun, but it can evoke a sense of excitement in you. A feeling that you’re doing something that “really” matters in your life. Something that will affect you the rest of your life, and quite possible many others!

 

Inner Healing Work Paths

There are a variety of inner healing paths you can consider.

Your path will be uniquely yours. What someone else is doing might work for them, but it might not be your path. Please resist the urge to judge others for their path. Let them be them and walk their path, and you walk yours without judging yourself or the path.  Allow yourself to intuitively discover your path.

I am only sharing a few inner healing work paths; one’s that I have found valuable and others have too.  By all means if these don’t resonate with you, keep seeking till you find your path.

1.     Inner Child Healing Work

In psychology circles, you’ll hear a lot of talk about healing the inner wounded child. We all grow up as innocent children that pick up some wounds, fears, beliefs, etc. along the journey.  As a child, we don’t always know how to process pain.  We end up stuffing feelings, disconnecting, feeling confused, and more.  But that pain doesn’t just go away. It accumulates. It gets lodged deep in the psyche, so one way of doing the inner healing work is to do inner “child” healing work.  To go back and revisit childhood to identify pain or wounds and process and integrate them. In other words, heal them! 

Remember back when you were a child full of playful energy? Joy? Creativity? Imagination? Love? Over time, you may have lost sight of those qualities. Most adults end up neglecting or abandoning their inner child, stifling their wonder, curiosity, playfulness, and innocence.

 It’s time to get these back! Going back to do some inner child healing work can help you with this. Your inner child may be afraid, angry, confused, insecure, etc. and desires you as an adult to connect with him/her.  Re-parent so-to-speak, from a healed and whole adult.

It wasn’t until I was about 35 when I discovered that my childhood wasn’t as great as I always thought it was. It was then that I got started therapy and an inner healing journey, and got busy doing inner child healing. It was tough to go back and visit my childhood; to acknowledge that my home life wasn’t ideal. That my mom suffered with depression and my dad, alcoholism. That they weren’t emotionally there for me like I needed. It wasn’t easy, but necessary.

Tapping into the resources of John Bradshaw helped me tremendously. Google him and read his books. Watch his videos. Very powerful stuff. Here’s a wonderful guided mediation that might help you too: Inner Child Healing Guided Meditation

2.     Psychoanalysis

Most likely, there’s an unconscious part of yourself that is affecting your emotional and behavioral life in a negative way. This unconscious part began forming in childhood, and a good therapist will help you dig and discover it, so that you can begin to change it at that level.

Growing up in age doesn’t mean you’re automatically growing up emotionally or psychologically. This is why doing the inner healing work is necessary! So, you can grow on all levels and experience life in a more relaxed, blissful way.

Find a great psychotherapist who can journey you back to your childhood and help you discover where you’ve been holding onto wounds. You don’t want to be a four-year-old trapped in your adult body, trying to live life with your wounded child calling the shots. 

Therapy can be helpful. Do make sure your therapist will journey you back to do some digging. And, if you don’t resonate with one therapist, try another.  Find one that you feel you can connect with, be yourself with, and that will be able to hold space for you and – and challenge you if necessary. But overall, help you become more healed and whole.

3.     Shamanic Journeying

Shamanism is an ancient spiritual practice or way of life and, it’s quite powerful. You can use shamanistic tools and rituals to do your inner healing work individually or with a modern-day shaman. There’s a ton of information you can find online regarding healing your wounds based upon shamanic principles.

A wonderful online six-week course by well-known shaman, Sandra Ingerman, will help you learn where specific prints were made in your life regarding trauma, faulty thought patterns, and more. She’s also got lots of great information on her website, and has written excellent books that can help you out.

 

Further Tools

Lastly, consider committing to a daily practice of mindfulness, meditation, prayer, journaling, and dream analysis.  These can all help you along your inner healing work journey.

Begin where you feel comfortable with. Like I said, what works for one might not work for another. If you’ve tried one path, try another.  Or, try what you’ve done already, but at a deeper level.  You’re not the same person you were a year ago, so your work may peel back even more layers now.

In the end, these various inner healing paths are contending with the same thing: inner wounds or pain that is wanting to be recognized and integrated into your energy body. We came here spirit housed in a body.  We also have a mind.  Mind, body, spirit. Don’t neglect your spiritual state, while allowing your mind to keep you stuck living life swimming in a sea of pain.  By embarking on an INNER, spiritual journey, you’ll be more apt to discover what’s been tripping you up, deal with it, heal it, and experience more freedom and joy.

It’ll take time and effort, so make a commitment to begin and keep at it. Reach out for help if you need. I assure you that you can make changes in your life, internally and externally.

I truly hope this article has helped you gain insight and clarity as you move forward on your spiritual journey.

Feel free to comment and let me know what kind of inner work you’ve done or what you’re currently doing.

Unlock The Power of Meditation

Unlock The Power of Meditation

Unlock the Power of Meditation

 

“All I know is that when I can sit in nature, listening to the birds and feeling the wind on my skin, life feels right. I feel right.”

The mind sure can busy itself with thoughts, huh?  Thought after thoughts turning on the wheel, oftentimes causing us to feel anxiety or fear.

Meditation (silence) is a technique that can help you gain more control over your thought life. It’s been quite instrumental in helping me heal at a deep level.

Please consider taking a season to learn about and implement meditation into your life.  It’s not only beneficial for emotional healing, but it’s helpful physically and spiritually. It reduces stress, helps with concentration, gives your self-awareness a boost, helps you feel happier, and more. In fact, there are plenty of scientifically validated reasons that ought to get you motivated to start meditating regularly – starting today.

The hardest thing about meditation is actually taking the time to do it. Most people won’t do it. You’d think that sitting quietly and focusing on your breath for a few minutes would be a piece of cake, but it’s not.  We live in a society where noise is constant, and people are hustling much of the time. And, when they’re not busy, they’ve got their mobile phones or iPad out.

Just look around. Even at a park, people are on their phones rather than sitting quietly taking in the awesomeness of nature.

But sitting for three minutes in silence?

Easier said than done, but it can be done when you commit to it as a discipline.

When I first started meditating, I found guided meditations helpful.

Guided meditations are meditations where a person gently guides you toward relaxation or a particular goal, such as less anxiety or more self-love.

They can really help you shift your focus and grow personally and spiritually.  It’s quite easy to engage with a guided meditation, as all you have to do is sit or lie down, close your eyes, and listen to the meditation with an open mind.

Meditation For Beginners

Meditation is an ancient technique has long been popular in the East and is deemed to be a superb practice for enhancing relaxation, peace, and joy in one’s life.

If you want to learn more about meditation, follow these easy steps to incorporate such a beneficial practice in your life.

1.  Find a quiet spot. Meditation is simply a practice that involves you sitting in a quiet spot and focusing on your breathing.  The first step is to find a relaxing and quiet spot to practice meditation. You can sit with your legs crossed on the floor if you choose. Keep your back straight, yet relaxed.  If sitting on the floor is difficult, sit in a comfortable chair or lie down.  You simply want to feel relaxed and not have any distractions around.

2.  Concentrate on the breath. The first thing you will do is take three deep breaths. Inhale deeply and focus on the air going into your lungs. Then exhale slowly while concentrating on the breath leaving the lungs and relaxing every muscle in your body.  You want to really focus on letting go of all stress while you focus on the inhale and exhale.  Once you have taken your deep breaths, continue to focus on your inhale and exhale as you breathe naturally.

3.  Let go of thoughts. One of the reasons you are to concentrate on your breathing is because when you do this, by default you are not focusing on thoughts running around your mind. Have you noticed that you seem to be thinking thoughts all the time? You think even when you don’t want to! As you keep your attention on your breathing, your thoughts should decrease greatly. Once in a while you will find yourself thinking a thought and if so, it is quite normal and alright. Simply acknowledge the thought and then let it go. Do not entertain it. Just bid it adieu and get back to focusing on your breath. 

4.  Introduce a mantra. Some people really like introducing a mantra in their meditation time. A mantra is simply a word or phrase and in meditation you can concentrate on and repeat that mantra. Om is a very common mantra that is used, but there are many others.  Om is said to be the sound vibration of the universe. Do a little research to see what kinds of mantras appeal to you.

The time you commit to meditation is completely up to you. Beginners usually start off with five or ten minutes, but go with what you feel comfortable with. The more you meditate, the longer you will be able to sit quietly. Seasoned meditators can meditate for 30 minutes to an hour at a time without a problem, but do what works for you. You might want to attend a meditation class to learn more about the ancient practice.  It will certainly serve you well.

There are many free guided meditations online and I’ve taken advantage of many of them.  If you’re dealing with fear, find one on fear. If you’re having a difficult time loving yourself, find one about self-worth. There are meditations on just about every topic, including decreasing anxiety, fear of abandonment, jealousy, and so on.

I firmly believe that if you will consistently take time to listen to guided meditations, you will experience some positive changes in your life. It’s the CONSISTENCY that many people will not commit to. They’ll do it once or twice (or not at all), and then say “It doesn’t work for me.”

Discipline yourself, dear one, to do small things consistently toward your recovery, and over time, you’ll see favorable results.

Here are some guided meditations to try at your leisure:

Blissful Deep Relaxation

Relaxation, Anxiety, & Depression

 – Healing

 – Inner Child Healing

Are You Abiding In Peace?

Are You Abiding In Peace?

 

Are You Abiding In Peace?

When I think that God can love me despite my flaws, my mistakes, my forsaking my faith so many times…. I am overwhelmed with emotion.

When I allow myself to sit in silence, to just inhale peace, it is there that all is well.  There’s no struggle and I am free. It’s there that grace finds me and I feel Spirit’s love for me – a kind of love I cannot even give myself.  A kind of love that sees me for who I really am underneath so many darn layers of ego. Of regrets. Of pain.

“My people will abide in a peaceful habitation…and in quiet resting places.” Isaiah 32:18

7+ billion people on the planet. How many are resting in a peaceful habitation? Resting at all?  The carnal nature has a bent toward doing, striving, mind-racing, producing more, and more, and more. That will not produce peace. That produces high levels of stress, anxiety, and a gap in our relationship with Spirit.

And I get it because I’ve been there. It’s a constant balancing act.  Committing to a life marked by sitting in silence (meditation, sacred time with God), prayer (actively thinking and speaking to God), and listening. How many of us are doing this throughout the day?  How many find it challenging to sit quietly for 1 minute a day?

I love to research and experiment, and prayer and faith are two things I put to the test more and more. I’m here to tell you if you’ll put the time in to just sit in silent prayer, focusing on your breath, on the divinity of God, you’re going to begin to experience some inner changes.  You’re going to begin to get some revelation of God’s will and ways. You don’t have to speak long prayers… you don’t have to “know how to pray”.  Just be quiet for now. 

Be quiet and reverent and go within.

And yes, surely pray out loud at times with passion and zeal. Dance ecstatically under Spirit’s influence with shouts of praise. Emotionally infused prayers are like sweet incense to God, so go for it! Ask for what you desire, affirm that it’s manifesting as you believe. Just do your best to ask from your spirit man and not your ego man. Ego wants a lot, but is usually not in sync with Spirit.

How will you know the difference? You might not always know, but I believe as you cultivate a more intimate relationship with God, you’ll just know.

I want more of God’s divine presence in my life. I want to tap into Christ consciousness more each day, and in order to do so, I must be consistent with my spiritual discipline.  I must make time to become more acquainted with my inner life. This spaciousness in my mind and spirit. The Kingdom of God that Jesus talked about. A more enlightened understanding of the Mystery.

This is my commitment. I hope you’ll join me.

Our Father in heaven,
Reveal who you are.
Set the world right;
Do what’s best—
    as above, so below.
Keep us alive with three square meals.
Keep us forgiven with you and forgiving others.
Keep us safe from ourselves and the Devil.
You’re in charge!
You can do anything you want!
You’re ablaze in beauty!
    Yes. Yes. Yes.

Matthew 6:13 MSG

Seek the Light – Devotional

Seek the Light – Devotional

When To Leave A Bad Relationship

 

So many people come on the forum and ask if they should leave their partner.  They’re confused, hurt, and scared.  Granted, there’s always some sort of story that goes along with the question.

They’re in a relationship with someone:

  • Who is over-drinking or drugging.
  • Who is not emotionally available.
  • Who doesn’t act like they are in love anymore.
  • Who is a very selfish person or a narcissist.
  • Who is emotionally or physically abusing them.

Of course, there are other scenarios as well.

Now this is a tough question to answer.  There’s no “one-size-fits-all” answer for sure.

But I’d like to go over five signs or signals that indicate that it might be time to get packing.

  1. Any Type Of Abuse

Hands down abuse is a clear indicator that it’s time to end the relationship.  I’m talking emotional, verbal, or physical abuse. Abuse is never alright. Even if they’re going through something horrible or they’ve had a tough life; it’s not acceptable.  Even if you’ve acted out, made mistakes, or whatever, it’s not acceptable.

If you’re experiencing abuse in any form, it’s time to get out of that relationship.  If you need help, find the nearest domestic violence center and speak with someone who can support you.  If you have nowhere to go, they may be able to assist you. Even staying on your best friend’s couch is better than staying in an abusive situation.

Also, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline. They’ve got professionals that can help you sort this out and make a plan to end the abuse.  You never deserve abuse; not ever. Leaving is YOU standing up and practice self-care. It’s you taking care of you and letting that other person figure out what to do with themselves. You don’t owe him or her anything. You don’t have to be loyal to someone who is abusing you.

  1. Your Talks Amount to No Changes

Chances are you’ve voiced your wants and needs in this relationship, multiple times. You might have even screamed them a few times, to no avail. He keeps drinking himself into oblivion. She keeps flirting with every man she sees, right in front of you.  He stays out later and later, neglecting the relationship. And so on.

If you’ve had discussion after discussion, clearly stating what you want and need, and they’re not willing or able to at least work towards meeting them, it might be time to cut ties. I’m not saying to leave if they have no idea what’s going on inside your head. You’ve got to get very honest with yourself and them, and also ask them what their wants and needs are.

However, if you’ve done this over and over, and nothing is changing and they’re not looking like they’re interested in “doing the work” to make changes, it might be time to make the break.

  1. They Keep Lying

Living with a repetitive liar can feel awful. You never know if you can trust what they are saying. You want to believe them. You want to believe that they’re making a turnaround, but there you are finding them in yet another lie.

Some people are repetitive liars and for one reason or another, can’t or won’t stop.  If this has been going on for a while and your requests for honesty are not being met, it might be an indicator that this relationship isn’t going to work for you.

  1. Emotional Neglect

Feeling alone in a relationship sucks.  You want to emotionally connect with your partner at least to some degree, right? But not everyone is able to make that connection – or not everyone WANTS to make that deep and meaningful connection. And that’s alright if you want a shallow connection; it actually works for many. But if you’ve voiced your wants and needs and they’re continually being neglected, it might be time to make the cut.

  1. No Love Reciprocation

It’s not very fun to be on the other side of someone who does not reciprocate love.  You love them and you happen to like to show affection. But they don’t. You’ve asked and asked for them to level up on this end.  To affirm love every now and then. Show affection sometimes. But they don’t. They may not feel those love-type feelings for you or they just don’t know how to reciprocate them. They may have checked out long ago and are simply staying out of comfort or fear.  Either way, if you’re giving, giving, and giving and not getting anything in return, it might be time to leave the relationship.

Granted, there are other situations and solutions, but these indicators can help you gauge your relationship and get clearer on what you should do. And, if you find yourself continuing to struggle, reach out to a good therapist for some guidance. You don’t have to figure it out all alone.

You deserve a healthy relationship with someone who values and appreciates you. There’s too many people out there who CAN do that, so don’t stay connected to someone who won’t. This is your life and what you want and need matters.

 

Powerful Prayers For Adult Children

Powerful Prayers For Adult Children

Powerful Prayers For Adult Children

 

Whether your children are 18, 30, or older, consistent prayers offered on their behalf not only helps them, but helps you to have a more peaceful and faith filled heart.  I know for me, if I’m not looking toward a loving God concerning my adult children and their lives, I can get into fear and worry. 

Here are some scriptures and affirmations to pray/affirm for your adult children. I use affirmative prayers because Jesus said to pray, believe, and then we’ll receive. I’ve also paraphrased them in a way that I felt led. So, I affirm that my prayers are done (and they are in the spiritual realm), so I affirm until they manifest and then keep affirming and offering gratitude.

Get into that secret place and allow these words to penetrate the heart of God, as there is power in our words!  I look at it this way: Hold an object in front of a mirror and you see that object as it is.  But if you turn that object just a little, you see it differently. Praying for my children, in my eyes, helps them make shifts that grant them a closer relationship with God, themselves, and others, and therefore, a better life.

Prayers for adult children:

  1. Ephesians 1:17-19

God, thank you that my children are receiving your spirit of wisdom and revelation, getting to know you better and better each day. Getting to know you more personally! Experiencing your presence! Thank you that their hearts are being opened and they’re clearly hearing what you’ve created and called them to do in this life. That they’re becoming more aware of the immensity of your glorious way of life, your awesome power, and your endless, boundless strength!

  1. Colossians 1:9-12 (Coupled with Ephesian 5 fruits of the spirit)

God, fill my children with an understanding of you and your will. Thank you that they walk in a manner that pleases you and bear fruit that blesses themselves and others in all areas of their lives –Fruits of the Spirit like peace, kindness, humility, patience, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Thank you that their coming to a deeper understanding of who and what you are. God, strengthen them with faith filled power, endurance, patience, and joy. Thank you!

  1. Micah 6:8

Thank you, God, that my children are learning more and more how to live as you desire them to. That they’re going within and listening to your guidance. That they’re compassionate, loyal, kind, and humble.

  1. Proverbs 2:1-11

My children receive wisdom and understanding from God as they make decisions in life, such as career, service, dating, marriage, friendships, finances, and parenting.

  1. James 4:1-8

My children guard their hearts from the temptations and lusts of this carnal world.  Things like greed, addiction, lust, power trips, hurting others, lying, etc. They allow God’s will to work in them, resisting the ways of this carnal, egotistical world. If they fall or miss the mark, they humble themselves before God, and get right back up with a heart after the ways of their creator.

I’ll add to this list periodically. Commit to praying faithfully for your children, as prayer and affirmations are great ways to continually uphold and support them. Believe God’s best for them, no matter what’s going on in the physical realm.  See the spiritual realm, believing God is always at work on their behalf. We must believe for them, always.

If you’d like to add a scriptural prayer or affirmation, please do so in the comments below.